5 Top Regrets People Have At the End of Their Lives

This a nice article by Susie Steiner written for The Guardian. Loved it, so thought of sharing it to you’all too!

A palliative nurse has recorded the top five regrets of the dying.
There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps. A palliative nurse who has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in particular, is ‘I wish I hadn’t worked so hard’.

Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. “When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently,” she says, “common themes surfaced again and again.”

Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”

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Cheesy Pasta!!

Cheesy Pasta

Cheesy Pasta

My hubby is a great fan of cheese and I don’t hate it either ๐Ÿ˜‰ I remember once during my pregnancy I wanted to eat cheesy pasta badly. We went to a famous italian restaurant, but I didn’t like the way they cooked it and was still craving for it. Then my hubby bought another cheesy pasta from pizza hut, but I didn’t like it either ๐Ÿ˜ฆ And then I tried making it at home the next day, loved it and got addicted to it to such an extent that used to cook it every other day ๐Ÿ˜› Well, let’s get down to its recipe ๐Ÿ™‚

Ingrdients:
Pasta(90% boiled in salted water)-4 cups
Mixed veg. parboiled or steamed(broccoli, beans, carrot or any veg. of your choice)-1 cup
Mixed bell pepper(diced)-1/2 cup
Garlic(finely chopped)-1 tbsp
White sauce-2 cups(if you don’t know how to make it, find it here https://theyoungindianmommies.wordpress.com/2013/02/17/how-to-make-white-sauce/)
Shredded cheese-1/2 cup
Black pepper-1/4 tsp
Salt-to taste
Oregano(dry)-1/4 tsp
Basil(dry)-1/4 tsp
Olive oil-2 tbsp

Method:
-> Heat oil in a pan and add garlic to it. After tossing once or twice(we donโ€™t want garlic to be brown) add mixed bell peppers.
-> When the bell pepper is cooked till tender, add the boiled vegetable and salt.
-> Mix them well and add pasta, white sauce, black pepper, oregano, basil, salt and shredded cheese.
-> Let the pasta cook in the sauce for few minutes (donโ€™t overcook).
[Tip-if your find your sauce a bit thick add little milk to it.]

Turn off the stove. Serve it hot.

You can also add mozzarella cheese on the top of it and bake it in the oven.

Now eat/serve it hot and say “cheese” ๐Ÿ˜›

Mushroom asparagus soup with noodles..

Mushroom-Asparagus Soup

Mushroom-Asparagus Soup


Soup and me are totally inseparable. And maybe that’s the reason I keep experimenting a lot with it. Following is the recipe of one of them.

Ingredients(For 2 bowls):

Mushroom(finely cut)-1 tbsp
Asparagus(cut to half an inch)-1/2 tbsp
Cabbage(finely cut)-1 ยฝ tbsp
Noodles-2 tbsp
Soy sauce-1/2 tsp
Cornflour-1/4 tsp
Black pepper powder-1 pinch
Salt-to taste
Honey-1/2 tsp
Lemon juice-3-4 drops
Garlic(chopped)-1/2 tsp
Green chilli(finely cut)-1/4 tsp
Tomato sauce(optional)-1 tbsp
Vegetable stock-1 cup
Butter-1 tsp
Oil-Few drops(just to prevent burning of butter)

Method:

-> Take oil and butter in a pan and when butter melts add garlic to it.
-> When garlic turns light brown add asparagus and fry for approx.2 minutes.
-> Now add chilli, cabbage and mushroom and fry for a minute.
-> Add salt, noodles and 1 cup of water. Let it comes to a boil.
-> Then add vegetable stock and bring it to a boil.
-> Take corn flour in a separate bowl and add 2 tbsp of water in it, mix well.
-> Start adding this solution to the soup, little amount at a time(as we donโ€™t want it to be so thick).
-> When you find that the consistency is perfect stop adding that solution to the soup.
-> Add soy sauce, black pepper powder and bring to another boil.
-> Turn off the stove. And add honey, lemon juice and tomato ketchup.

Serve it hot! ๐Ÿ™‚

Mushroom Asparagus Soup 2

Mixed veg. in tomato-spinach gravy!

Mixed Veg in Tomato-Spinach Gravy

Mixed Veg in Tomato-Spinach Gravy

A healthy yet tasty curry.. ๐Ÿ™‚

Ingredients:
Mixed veg(parboiled in salted water or steamed)-4 cups
Blanched & pureed spinach-1 cup
Onion paste-1 ยฝ cups
Tomato puree-3/4 cups
Ginger paste-1/4 tsp
Garlic paste-1 tsp
Green Chilli Paste-1/4 tsp(or according to your liking)
Turmeric powder-1/4 tsp
Coriander powder-1 tbsp
Black pepper powder-1/4 tsp
Cumin powder-1/4 tsp
Cumin seeds-1/4 tsp
Garam masala-1/4 tsp
Water/veg stock-1 cup
Salt-to taste
Oil-2 tbsp
Cream-1 tbsp

Method:

-> Heat oil in a wok and add cumin seed.
-> When the cumin seed crackles, add ginger-garlic paste.
-> Cook till light brown. Now add onion paste.
-> Fry till golden brown.
-> Now add all the dry spices(except garam masala) and let it cook for a while.
-> Then add chilli paste and tomato puree.
-> Mix well and cook till it leaves oil.
-> Now add all the vegetables, spinach puree and garam masala.
-> Cook for another 1-2 minutes
-> Add 1 cup water or the vegetable stock you have got by boiling the vegetables.
-> Give it a boil and then turn off the stove.

Garnish with cream and serve hot ๐Ÿ™‚

Besan Laddoo..

Besan Ladoo

Besan Ladoo

Sabka favorite besan laddo ๐Ÿ™‚

Ingredients:
Gram flour-2 cups
Granulated sugar-1 ยผ cups
Ghee-1 cup
Dry fruits-according to your liking

Method:
-> Take ghee and besan in a wok.
-> Put in on the stove.
-> Keep stirring till light brown(or you get the aroma of cooked besan).
-> Turn off the stove.
-> Add sugar and mix well.
-> Keep aside to cool down completely.
-> Make balls/ladoos.
-> Decorate with dry fruits of your choice.

And relish..hummm ๐Ÿ˜‰

Gobhi Methi(cauliflower with fenugreek leaves)

Gobhi Methi

Gobhi Methi

A nice combo of cauliflower and fenugreek leaves.

Ingredients:
Cauliflower florets-4 cups(steamed or parboiled in salted water)
Fenugreek leaves-2 cups(blanched in salted water and chopped)
Onion-3/4 cup(chopped)
Garlic-2 nos.(finely chopped)
Tomato-1/2 cup(chopped)
Green chilli-1(chopped)
Coriander powder-1 tbsp
Turmeric powder-1/4 tsp
Garam masala-1/4 tsp
Cumin seeds-1/2 tsp
Oil-2 tbsp
Salt-to taste

Method:
-> Heat up oil in a pan and add cumin seeds. When it starts crackling add chopped chilli.
-> Add chopped garlic. When it turns light brown add chopped onion.
-> Now add cauliflower florets and fry for few minutes.
-> Add turmeric powder and coriander powder.
-> Add salt and fry till it leaves oil.
-> Now add tomato and fenugreek leaves.
-> Cook for another 5-7 minutes.
-> Add garam masala and cook for 1-2 minutes.
-> Switch off the stove.

It is ready to be served ๐Ÿ™‚

Is your toddler constipated?

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Many newborns face constipation problem till they just drink milk(upto 6 months). This is mostly common with bottle-fed babies since formula aren’t that easy to digest as the breast milk. But after that if the baby is still suffering from constipation, it means either he is dehydrated, not eating enough fibres or not chewing well(just gulping down). My son too had great constipation problem; it was upto such an extent that he used to literally shout of pain during passing stool. But thankfully, his bowel movement is all well now. Following are the tips which I implemented, some of these are shared by my son’s paediatrician while others are from our age-old Ayurveda ๐Ÿ™‚

1) Avoid giving him potatoes and rice. This can leads to further constipation(this is what his paediatrician suggested. Son dear is a BIG rice lover, so I didn’t implement this suggestion, you can go ahead and try this one).

2) Feed him prunes which helps a lot in dealing with constipation(you can cheat him on this. Make the purรฉe of prunes and mix it with yogurt or whatever is his favourite).

3) Give him sugar-water. If he is not drinking much after he is full with his food, try giving him before food.

4) Give him enough fibre rich fruits and veggies.

5) Cut down on processed fatty foods, try to give whole food as much as possible.

6) Increase his fluid intake, be in the form of water or homemade juice.

7) Feed him oranges as it helps in dealing with constipation.

8) In a glass of lukewarm water mix 1/2 tsp of fennel seeds powder and try to make him sip that(I know babies are tough to handle ๐Ÿ˜ )

9) Observe him when he eats. Does he chew his food properly? If not, make the bite even smaller.

10) Mix lemon juice and salt in a cup of lukewarm water and try giving him as the first thing in the morning.

Try these tips, I am sure it will help ๐Ÿ™‚

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Tutorial on “how to make your eyes look bigger & awake!”

Step 1-Tightline (i.e apply kajal on your upper waterline).
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Step 2-Apply black eyeliner on your upper lashline (thin one not so thick).
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Step 3-Apply white eyeliner on your lower waterline.
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Step 4-Apply white liner at your tear duct.
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Step 5-Merge it with your finger.
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Step 6-Apply kajal on the lower lid (outside the waterline).
Tips for step 6. a)NEVER connect your kajal to the tear duct because open ended kajal makes your eyes look bigger while close ended makes it look smaller. b) Try to start with a thicker kajal at your outer end side gradually going down thinner towards your tear duct end. This will make your eyes look bigger.
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Step 7-Merge it well with the use of a brush.
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Step 8-Apply mascara on your upper and lower lashes.
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Step 9-Apply white eyeliner just below the highest arc of the brow bone.
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Step 10-Merge it well.
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It is done!

Before/After

Before/After

P.S:- Pls. excuse me for the ill-filled black eyeliner application on the upper lashline (and a bit messy mascara) ๐Ÿ˜ฆ
I was totally in hurry as my son woke up at the same time and I had to complete this tutorial as fast as possible ๐Ÿ˜ But I hope you got the whole idea ๐Ÿ™‚

How to make bread crumbs at home

Bread Crumbs

Bread Crumbs

Bread crumbs can be used to make crunchy snacks. Infact, it serves the dual purpose of making the snacks crunchy and getting over those old breads laying on your kitchen shelf since long. So let’s see how to make it..

Here is the super easy method:

-> Cut the bread into small pieces, say 16 pieces/medium size bread .
-> Now take those pieces on a plate.
-> Put in the microwave for 8-10 minutes approx. Check it in between. We don’t want to burn it; it should be just crunchy
-> Let it cool.
-> Run it in a grinder to make a powder(it shouldn’t be so fine).

And here you get homemade bread crumbs. Now make tikkis, cutlets etc with it ๐Ÿ™‚

P.S:
Store it in an air-tight container.

How to make white sauce

White Sauce

White Sauce

White sauce is a versatile sauce and can be used in pasta recipes, making creamy soups etc.
The three main ingredients of white sauce are:
All-purpose flour, butter and milk. And the proportion is very easy to remember- all “one”(1 tbsp butter, 1 tbsp flour and 1 cup milk), which would make about 3/4 cup of white sauce.

Ok. Now let’s learn the method:

* Take butter in a pan and when it melts add all-purpose flour(keep the flame low).
* Keep stirring as we don’t want the flour to burnย but just to turn very light brown.
* Now add milk in it. Try to use cold milk asย it will help in prevention of lumps. You can alsoย take the pan off the stove while adding the milk. And once you add the milk (little at a time) and mix it well, you can put the pan back on the stove.
* Now keep stirring continuously, we want it smooth and non-lumpy.
* Turn off the stove. And add salt and balck pepper.

White sauce is ready to be used for different preparations ๐Ÿ™‚