A funny incident…

2355228-326683-illustration-of-kids-at-bus-stop-waiting-for-school-busA funny incident happened to me few days back. I was waiting at my colony gate for my office cab and few steps apart, there was a small school-going girl waiting with her dad for her school bus. Suddenly, she pointed her finger towards me and started shouting “papa udhar dekho”. She was so scared and about to cry. I felt so embarrassed and said to myself “oh gosh, do I look so horrible that the girl is scared of me”. At that time, I had lots of pimple on my face and a day prior to this incident even I was wondering by glancing at the mirror “yaar, ye kitna darawane lag rahein hain”. But not had the slightest idea that I am looking so horrible that a kid will get scared of me and would start to cry by my appearance. I was cursing the cab, “jaldi kyo nahi aaraha yaar..” and I started looking here and there just to curb my anger and embarrassment. Suddenly I looked back and was like “Oh no”! There was an about 5 ft 8 inch tall cow with almost 2 ft long horns and she was just 1/2 ft away from me. I ran from that place and felt like shouting at that girl’s dad “aapki beti itni der se chilla rahi hain, par aap ek baar bol nahi sakte ki mere pichhe itni badi aur itni dangerous gai khadi hain..#$%%^&&$#@” 😡 and more of it. But then my cab arrived and I left. I was a bit relieved, not because I survived that long, sharp-horned cow, but because I get to know that I don’t look that horrible to make a child scared of me. And later I was smiling at the whole incident throughout the day 😛 😛

P.S: I wrote this post few years ago in my personal blog (shivani-blahblah.blogspot.com, which is dormant now).

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The “POWER” of effort!!


This is a beautiful and encouraging poetry written by the famous Indian poet, Harivansh Rai Bachchan. I really love to read it when I feel little low. Hope you’d like it too!

कोशिश करने वालों की…

लहरों से डर कर नौका पार नहीं होती,
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती।

नन्हीं चींटी जब दाना लेकर चलती है,
चढ़ती दीवारों पर, सौ बार फिसलती है।
मन का विश्वास रगों में साहस भरता है,
चढ़कर गिरना, गिरकर चढ़ना न अखरता है।
आख़िर उसकी मेहनत बेकार नहीं होती,
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती।

डुबकियां सिंधु में गोताखोर लगाता है,
जा जा कर खाली हाथ लौटकर आता है।
मिलते नहीं सहज ही मोती गहरे पानी में,
बढ़ता दुगना उत्साह इसी हैरानी में।
मुट्ठी उसकी खाली हर बार नहीं होती,
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती।

असफलता एक चुनौती है, इसे स्वीकार करो,
क्या कमी रह गई, देखो और सुधार करो।
जब तक न सफल हो, नींद चैन को त्यागो तुम,
संघर्ष का मैदान छोड़ कर मत भागो तुम।
कुछ किये बिना ही जय जय कार नहीं होती,
कोशिश करने वालों की कभी हार नहीं होती।

~ हरिवंशराय बच्चन

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5 Top Regrets People Have At the End of Their Lives

This a nice article by Susie Steiner written for The Guardian. Loved it, so thought of sharing it to you’all too!

A palliative nurse has recorded the top five regrets of the dying.
There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps. A palliative nurse who has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in particular, is ‘I wish I hadn’t worked so hard’.

Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. “When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently,” she says, “common themes surfaced again and again.”

Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”

2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

“This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.”

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

“Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.”

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”